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Birth Story - Lucas

2010-08-23T22:09:00.000-07:00

I've been telling myself that I have to note down birth stories of my 3 kids, before I forgot ( Been forgeting little by little, blame it to the pain killer taken during labour).

Let's start with Lucas's. It's 2 more weeks to due date, I started working from home due to the inconveniences of driving to work ( For your info, I drive 90km everyday to/ fr office). I went for my weekly check up @Subang Specialist in the evening, with hubby & 2 little ones. Doc performed a check 'under'. ANd he said it's 3cm dilated ( last week was 2cm) & kept on emphasizing that it's going to be very 'SOON'. Since my elder 2 wasn't delivered closed to EDD, so I thought it's the same this time around. However, doc suggested to go for induction if there isn't any sign within these 2 days. He even booked me a labour room on Friday 15.01.2010.
So I thought, well, if there's no signs for the next 2 days n if I'm not comfortable with induction, I can always call in to make cancellation right.

Off we went to Kuchai Lama to meet up with 2 of my close friends for dinner. This is what we'd for dinner, Alaska Crab. Believe me, it's really HUGE !!! And best of all, it's super yummy, & expensive too. Thanks Sam for the dinner !!

During the dinner, I started to feel mild contraction on and off, however, it's norm as doc has performed the check just now. I was warned that there might be 'Show' too. So I cant care much, continue eating like normal.

Only towards end of dinner, just before dessert was served, I remember, it's 8pm. I started to monitor the contraction, it's quite a regular one, every 5 mins. Then I started to alarm hubby and friends, that I might be in labour !! Everyone got so excited !!

Without delaying, I gave mum a call, told her I'll be sending the 2 elder kids to her. Off, we drove to mum's house & I even took a shower before admitting.

Contraction has been very regular, 5 mins. I started to medidate while on the way, but it's so hard to concentrate !! Imagine, I'll be seeing my baby soon...a long & suffer waiting !

@9.30pm, in the labour ward, after all the checking & monitoring, blah blah blah....I was told that doc wont be coming in, I shall 'enjoy' my contraction till it's time to deliver !
I thought 'Well, I'm going to have a natural birth this time, no painkiller, no epidurial !'.

@12-6am:Contraction comes n goes. After awhile, it becomes irregular, less pain. I cant sleep, so I walked around the room while hubby was already in his 'lalaland' after he's back from supper. Contraction is so mild yet it's enough to wake me up each time it comes. Didn't really sleep well, coz midwife did come in to check the dilation.

@8.30am, doc came in and broke the water bag. and I was told not to get down from the bed. Contraction has become stronger by then, but still, it's not that 'Strong'. I started to practised 'hypnobirthing'. Keep my mind occupied with all the happy moments, beautiful baby faces..it helps though not 100%, but at least keeps my mind busy.

@11am, can you believe I' already in 15 hours labour, still no show of baby coming out soon, only 4-5 cm dilated. Doc suggested to put me on drip, means induction !! Ohh no, not so 'natural' birth ya, no choice, coz it may create stress to the baby if the labour is too long.

@12.05pm, doc came in and checked, he said 'Very soon, 8-9cm dilated'. The pain was unbearable that I finally opted for Oxygen.

@12.25pm, While I was screaming in pain, I knew it's time to meet my miracle baby. I told hubby that I'm going to 'push'. He pressed the bell, so the midwife came in and checked. Yeap, it's fully dilated & asked me NOT TO PUSH. I was so pain that I can hold it anymore. Guess what she did, she closed my leg, let me lie down on my back again, while waiting for doc to arrive. OMG, I cant believe she did that to me. I was so pain that I was so restless to argue with her.
Doc came and then start the pushing again. I think it's either I do not know how to push or baby was so stubborn, doc performed a vacuum after 2 contractions. At that time, I cant care much as long as my baby is out and safe !!

@12.30pm, my miracle baby Lucas is born, weighted at 3.56kg.

Doc performed a check on his neck and back to confirm if paed needs to be in immediately. Tks God, doc told me it's not necessary, nothign seems to be 'abnormal'. Midwife carried the baby to me, Ohh, my beautiful baby, I fall in love with him immediately !!

Baby was sent to nursery while hubby follows the midwife coz there'll be forms to fill in.

After stitches, I was left in the labour ward for 2 hours. Guess what, I was so tired & hungry. For the past 2 labours, I 'KO' immediately after I said Hello to my baby. But this round, I was still pretty alert, I can even asked doc to take a pic together with him. I remember scolded the midwife for pressing too hard to get the blood out, it's so painnnnn....!! I was so hungry that I told the midwife that I want a milo.

To be continue...

13 Jul 2010

2010-07-12T19:39:00.000-07:00

Today, marked another milestone for my miracle baby, Lucas. 13.07.2010, Lucas boy turns 6 months old today, yeahh !!

13.01.2010, 12.30pm
3.56kg, 49cm

13.07.2010

He's 7+kg last measured(5 mths), by now, should be around 9+kg.

Baby Lucas is such a happy baby, never fails to make me smile.

He likes raising his hands when he sees me, wanting a hug.

So far, he's the easiest to take care among 3. He can be left on the cot after he wakes up in the morning, plays with toys, while waiting for daddy and mummy to dress up to work.

Whenever I carry him from the cot, he'll return me the sweetest smile of all !!

We went to Chili's, Empire Shopping Gallery to celebrate baby 6mths old and also to mark mummy successfully breastfeed for 6 months, fully breastmilk. Intend to breastfeed baby as long as I can. Hope I can break my last record, 2 years & 3 months !!

28 weeks...

2009-11-01T21:38:00.000-08:00

Time flies, my pregnancy is into 28 weeks by now. During the 2nd trimester, everything was smooth sailing, eat and sleep. Besides the not so normal tiredness during the day, the only thing I worry was ( or in fact, my gynae greatest concern) my weight. Haha, ya, my weight! I put on almost 2-3 kgs each visit. Dr complaints about my food intake. Keep reminding me to eat healthy, not the volume that counts. Ya Ya right...
Lower back pain is back, my old friend !! That's one night which I cant even stand straight and walk when woke up middle of night to go pee. Luckily hubby was still awake, he came up fast to give me some supports, rub my back with deep heat cream which helps to relief the back pain. I started to feel 'Not so mobile' like I used to, can hardly roll from left to right, vice versa. Which really makes me feel like I'm a Giant Hippo. OMG, it's only 28 weeks, and I'll have 3 more months to go !!

Better late than never

2009-09-02T04:29:00.001-07:00

I know I know I know, some of you may have been told about the amino test result, yes, the result says baby is normal. No further treatment required...YEAH.....IT's time to eat healthy, stay healthy !!

The Test

2009-08-10T06:58:00.000-07:00

At last, the test was performed as planned last Thursday. The whole process was smoother than expected. Earlier, I was told by a friend that it's a torture and unbearable pain. It turned out to be much better than expected.

We arrived at Dr's clinic @5.30pm, waited awhile before doc arrived. I was the first to enter the treatment room. At first, doc worried that the baby might not be big enough for the test, coz I was 15 weeks +, and normally the test is performed best when baby is 16-18 weeks. I was worry, what if it's not the time yet, and I need to wait and come back another time. He did one round of ultrasound scan, and he instructed the nurse to bring the needle and accessories. I then asked him 'Now ?' & he said 'Yes'.

He put a pillow below my buttock, and 'warned' me not to touch his hands even if I'm scared/ pain. He then used a needle, about 7 inch long, stretch abit of my belly and 'poke' the needle into my tummy. With the ultrasound, he make sure that the needle was poked at the right place without hurting the baby. He then used another needle to pull the amino fluid from my tummy.
It's yellowish in colour. He pulled out both the needle. It's full of blood. Just when I thought it's over, he said 'Sorry' and there go another 'poke'. This round, he extracted 2 full tube of fluid. After all has done, the nurse put a plaster on the place where he's poked, and told me not to remove it till 3 days later.

It's done. Yes, just that, within 10 mins. He prescribed me with some antibiotic, multi vitamins and folic acid. I was told to have 3 full days of rests, without house work. Here comes the most concern part, 'When is the result available ?'.......Doc said '3 weeks'....OMG...another 3 weeks of waiting ?? I will be torture for another 3 weeks of waiting ?? Help....anyone ??

Closer

2009-07-28T08:31:00.000-07:00

It's getting closer to the D-day....6th Aug. This is the day I'll be going for the AMU Test. Mixed feelings now. As much as I'd like to know the result asap, on the other hand, I'm doubt about how to get through the 3 days of bed resting( Doc said gotta bed rest for 3 days) ? Any suggestions ?? Perhaps it's time to dig out all the TVB series I've copied but yet to watch.

I'm not sure if I'm having migraine or muscle pain. It's the usual spot where I've migraine, however, it doesn't cure even with the pain killer which doc prescribed. Worse is the after effect of taking the pain killer, it makes me loss of appetite, AGAIN ?!! Yeah, again !! I've also tried Deep Heating Cream, it helps a little, but after awhile, it comes back. The most enjoyable moment is when I'm asleep, 15mins after I wake up, the pain will start again, everyday since last week. This evening, the pain was almost unbearable, I didn't have appetite for dinner, so I had a can of coke. The most amazing thing happened after I finished off the can of coke. The pain got relief !!! Ohh what a relief !! I hope it'll never comes back !!

Thank you

2009-07-28T08:27:00.000-07:00

Thanks all for the emails, SMS. Thanks for the prayers...I'll be strong !!

Dear Friends,

2009-07-19T06:02:00.001-07:00

Dear friends,

First of all, I'm sorry for not answering you call, returning your SMS.

You might be thinking, what happened to this lady ? MIA ? Too busy ? ...??...??

In the beginning, when the pregnancy is confirmed and morning sickness kicks off, If I can, I choose not to answer calls. I feel like vomiting everytime I talk on the phone. So I told myself, sorry for now, I will explain to you later when I'm better.

However, after the 2nd pre natal check up, I still choose not to answer call nor returning SMS, becoz I was scared. I'm sick of others asking me 'How are you ? How's your pregnancy coming along ? Everything so far so good ?' What you expect me to answer with a situation like this ? To tell you I'm good ? No, I'm not. To tell you I'm no good ? I'm too tired to explain. So I've decided to wait till everything is confirmed.

I dare not even step out of my house. I'm scared that if my neighbours see me, there'll know that I'm pregnant ( though my bump is still not noticable). Then, next month, when they see me, Ohh, what happened ? No pregnant anymore ?!! I'm just too tired to explain...

I hope that you understand my situation after reading my post.

I'll get back in touch with u all soon, just bear with me for a little more time...and Pray for me and the little life in my uteras !!

Luv,
Faye

2nd Opinion

2009-07-19T05:42:00.001-07:00

I cried while on the way home after my 2nd prenatal check up. I cant accept the fact that the doc has told me just now. Hubby asked to wait for the test result, mean time, still calm and do the best we can !! Tell me, how am I going to do the best ?? I might need to opt for abortion if the result is unfavorable. Do I still take my vitamins ? Do I still treat the baby good ? I dont know...

That night, I told hubby that I want to be alone, so I lie on my bed alone, what happened in the clinic kept on flashing on my head. I called my sister, before I can finished my sentence, my tears fall. I cant control my emotion as much as I wish I could. I was so touched by what she told me ' Dont worry, no matter what happens, jie jie is here with you'. Ohh Jie, so nice of you !

I then decided to go for 2nd opinion, I called up another friend, asked her for her gynae's contact. Another very experienced gynae fr Gleneagles.

The next day, hubby and I went to Gleneagles in the morning. Without appointment, I waited for awhile, luckily the next appointment patient has not arrive yet. The nurse took my weigh...Ohh, another 2 kgs, ever since I was pregnant, I've lost 4 kgs, same as the last time. We went in to see the gynae, told her about the situation we're facing.

She did another round of scan for me. Guess what's the first word came from her mouth ?!!! 'Ohh , that's no good' was the first, followed by ' From my experiences, I can briefly tell you that, if you do nothing about the pregnancy, one day, nature will take it cause, either the baby heart beat will stop by himself or something will happen, and you wont be able to keep'. How could I hold my tears when I heard what she's just said to me ??!!!

She's patient enough to show me a medic book, about the cause and effect of this Genetic Abnormalities Sickness. Explain to us what's it ? How it happens ? I asked ' Could the thick skin fold 'missing' in the next check up ? Means, if it's actually something else, harmless ?' She said 'No, it can only leads to some other abnormalities that we're not able to scan/ see using ultrasound'

After about half an hour of explaining and providing solutions/ options. We lef the clinic.

What else can happen while on the way home, I'm sure you can roughly guess...Yes, I cried again. All the way from Gleneagles to Putra Heights.

Look like the only option we've now is to wait for the AMU test. Pray hard...!!

2nd Prenatal Check Up

2009-07-19T05:07:00.000-07:00

Time flies, ya, now when I looked back, time really flies, but when I was in it, it's slow like a snail. I dont want to look back how I got through these 4 weeks. I was counting my fingers each and every sleepless nights. Yeah, finally it's my 12 weeks prenatal check up.

I insisted to have hubby with me to the clinic ( I didn't drive for 2 mths, I'm kinda scared). Since I'm going to have the 12 weeks scan today, so we arrived earlier to do the scan before seeing Dr Foong. We're there at 5.30pm, waited for 5 mins. My turn to do the scan.

To tell you the truth, though it's already my 3rd pregnancy, I still feel touched when I saw my baby image from the monitor. The specialist told me 'Ya, this is your baby, only one baby, this is the baby's head, feet and hand. Since we're doing the NT scan today, so there're 2 things that we need to identify, first is the nasal bone', after changing angle here and there, she found the nasal bone.

Next, she told me we need to check the thickness of the baby's neck skin fold. She told me the normal level is up to 2.5mm, anything more than that, consider abnormal. I cant believe my eyes when I saw the measurement, it's 5mm. That's that mean my baby is abnormal ?? Can anyone answer me ??

She called Dr Foong, and told him about the situation. Dr Foong came down to do the scan again. When he looked at the monitor, I hoped that he's going to say something different...something positive...He queitly did the measurement again. After all done, when I was about to get down from the bed. Dr Foong stopped me and said ' That's okay, when this happens, we're sorry for you too, dont be too upset'...Ohh my, I know him, he seldom talks, but this round, I cant believe what he's just said to me. I was totally devastated, I was scared, I was upset, I was.....crying inside. Is he telling me that my baby is abnormal ?

I looked at hubby, he's trying to calm me. Doc also told us the option that we've. Since the scan is only 70% accurate, we can opt for AMU Test, that's to test the aminofluid, by inserting a very dedicated needle through my abdominal to my uteras, extract the fluid. After the result is confirmed, then we can opt to keep the baby or abortion.

What ? Abortion ? I never thought Abortion could happens to me ?? Same goes to 'Down Syndrome', I never thought this Genetic abnormality could hit me ?? I've 2 healthy babies, how could this happens to me ?Why ? Why me ?? It maybe too early to conclude that abortion is the answer. But why ?? I'm already into 12 weeks pregnancy, 2 more weeks, when morning sickness gets better, I can start enjoying my pregnancy....Why me ? Why is this happening to me ??

Before I left Dr Foong's room, I can see that there's sympathy in his eyes...what else can I expect ? A very senior gynae like him, his experiences said it all. Do you think he cant guess what's the outcome of my AMU test ??

However, in order to do the AMU Test, he asked to wait for another 4 weeks, that's when baby bigger and more fluid in my water bag. So, we've arranged to do the test on 6th Aug.

How am I going to get through these 4 weeks ?!!

1st Prenatal Check Up

2009-07-19T04:57:00.000-07:00

I went for my first pre natal check up on 11 June. It's 8 weeks by then.

Before going there, I've tonnes of questions that I wanted to ask the doc. However, upon arriving, blame it to the rushing and traffic. I forgot about what I want to ask. All I remember was not to ask him for medicine to ease my all day sickness. I totally forgot about 'Sleepless night', constipation....etc...

I told Dr Foong about the morning sickness, then he asked about the frequency of vomiting, I told him sometimes about 2-3 times a day, sometimes about 5 times. Guess what he said ?!!! 'Ohh that's okay, if more than that then only I'll give you medicine'. The answer is so Him....He doesn't simply prescribe medicine just becoz you tell him you're not well. He also took some of my blood for test. He's never change, still the same, dont like to talk much.

Left there in half an hour's time. Next appointment on 9th Jul.

Night Night

2009-07-10T06:21:00.000-07:00

Ever since I'm pregnant with no.3, I've been sleeping with Gerrard in the master bed room, hubby will sleep with Belle in her room, reason being, due to my real bad morning sickness condition, I cant sleep at night, I need to make myself really tired, by the time I sleep, it's almost 2-3am, so I wake up very late in the morning too, almost 11am.

However, I still go to bed with Gerrard every night at 9pm, after his last feed, I'll off all the lights, then he'll start his counting routine, start asking 'Daddy ?', waiting for me to give him the answer, 'Er ?', 'Mummy?', 'Jojo?'....After a few rounds of counting, he'll then say 'Night Night'. My cute little boy, I love you boy !!

Two nights ago, I was amazed by his counting, he was saying 'Daddy, mummy, Er, Jojo, 'memei''when I asked him who meimei is, he pointed my belly...Ohh boy, u wanted a younger sister ?!!!

Last day

2008-12-29T02:56:00.000-08:00

Today is the last day of my year end break, after a good 2 weeks.

Serious, if you're to ask me what have I done in the past 2 weeks, well, I think 'Tired yet happy' says it all.
First, started with a 5d4n family trip to HK. In a country which required a lot of walking, walking, and walking, having 2 little one can be a torture. Imagine having to carry them whenever they're tired walking. Then, back in KL, got to know that Gerrard's babysitter had an accident, which means that my plan of having a good 'break' has gone with the wind. Taking care of 2 little one can be pretty tired, especially without a maid where you've to take care from A to Z. However, I must say, we'd a quality 2 weeks together 24/7.

Hope that I dont have to get back to work and become a stay home mum. So that I can provide the best that I can to the kids. Dream on !!

Mixed Feelings

2008-12-26T08:51:00.000-08:00

Just got back from my yearly vacation last weekend, I supposed for a normal person, the mood should still be high. But not for me, simply becoz the moment I touched KLIA, mum called and informed that my son's babysitter fell down when she's out and not able to take care my boy for 2 months. Went to visit her the very next day, looks like, not only 2 mths, she's giving the hint that it's going to be a 'farewell'. She's got someone to pack my boy's stuffs. I'm sad. How could I ever find a babysitter who's so caring and really take good care of my boy...I know my son, he's super duper energertic & active. Help...I need help...!!! The worst part is I'm running out of time !!

It's my daughter's 6th birthday today. We plan to go to the Toy Sales at Amcorp Mall in the morning ( actually, hubby who wanted to go)then off to wherever she wants to go. Time flies, it's already 6 years since I first stepped into the labour ward at SJMC. The memory is still fresh. I can still remember how my gynae has scolded me for late for the induction ( that's becoz me n hubby went for nasi lemak before admitting to hospital). And then, she's going to Standard 1 in a week's time.

I'm having mixed feelings now. In one hand, I'm happy becoz my daughter is 6 today. I should be glad that she grows up strong and healthy. but in the other hand, I'm not only worry, but very worry about looking for a good & responsible babysitter for my boy.

Counting down...!!

2008-08-14T00:45:00.001-07:00

Finally, there're only 2 more days till we meet again...Never know that missing someone can be that bad.

Time flies...?

2008-08-03T09:04:00.000-07:00

It's been a week since you left, time flies ? or not ? To tell you the truth, it's not ! It seems to me like a century without you around. Belle still asks about you, she really missed you a lot ! Boy, still the same, when I asked him about daddy, he'll look around & do the 'no more' sign. Cute boy !

It's the most tiring weekend I ever have in my life so far...Woke up at 8am ( Actually becoz ah boy woke up, so everyone has to follow ), gave you a morning call ( honestly, I missed your 'sleepy' voice), prepared breakfast ( Ya, Belle helped up with the fried omelette, which she later keep telling everyone that she prepared breakky for me !), bathe for them and ready to go, and that's almost 11am. Plan changed, we went to sister's house before heading to KLCC. Simple, because I thought that maybe more fun for the kids. When we arrived at KLCC, it's 12noon +, had our lunch at Mdm Kwan's and head to Isetan. Grabbed what we wanted, but too bad, not many left. Boy was cooperative, but Belle was overwhelmed, she ran and played with her buddy cousin sister. It's quite crowded, so really gotta keep an eye on her...!! Supposed to get the Avent bottle, but it's out of stock, too bad !!

We left at 2pm+ and went back to sis place. Belle begged to stay a little while so that she can play with her buddy, since I'm also feeling sleepy, so I said yes, u can never imagine how happy she's. Boy took his nap till 4pm, and joined the sis to play. All of us went to Tropicana for seafood dinner at 8pm. Yes, it's a scrumptious dinner, crab, noodles, vege...etc...yummy ! But, be reminded, I didn't really enjoy the food coz I spent most of the time feeding two of them...!!

During dinner, bro has suggested to go Awana Kijal this coming National day. We begged dad to come with us, but he's reluctant at first. After we've assured him how we can resolved his concern, he finally said 'YES'. So, better mark the calendar !!

Counting down to Thursday, till I see you again...!! Miss you darling...!! Wish you're here, at least can help to feed ah boy so that I can enjoy the dinner....hahaha !!

Poor little Belle

2008-07-27T05:24:00.000-07:00

Hubby left for S'pore for training for 3 weeks. This is the first time he is away from the kids, and the definitely the longest, so far. The last time hubby away from home, was 5 yrs +, when Belle was just 1 month old. Now she's 5 1/2 yrs old.

Belled missed her daddy a lot, that she keeps on asking me the same question once the cab left. 'Mama, when is daddy home? Is he coming back tomorrow ?' She missed her daddy till the extend that every time she asked me the question about daddy, followed with tears, and trust me, it's a real bad one...!! Her nose is already red...Sigh, very sentimental, guess where she inherits that from...( she's still sobbing while I'm writing this)...

Boy didn't manage to say 'tata' to daddy before he left. He woke up just when his dinner is ready. To my surprise, he started calling the word 'papa, paaaa, papa, paaaaaaa' since afternoon. And he's calling & looking for 'papa' not long ago. Hubby, pleases don't say boy doesn't like you.....at least, he learns to call 'papa' first....!!!

Alright, 3 weeks of hubby away from home....guess I really need to be extra tough !! Wish me luck....!!!

Finally..

2008-07-25T17:24:00.000-07:00

Yes, finally....I've a blog of myself. Hubby has always encouraged me to do so...colleagues asking me to share my breastfeeding tips..but... just too lazy to kick start. In this blog, I'm going to feature the happening with 2 little devils, baby/ make up product review, breastfeeding tips...etc. I'm also looking into opening an online boutique in the near future, everything ready besides waiting for my photographer to help to take a few snap shots for the products on sale.